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Chronic Positivity vs Emotional Resilience. Why All Your Emotions Matter

Welcome back to another episode of the Full Frontal Living podcast. Today, Lisa is diving deep into emotional bypassing also known as toxic positivity.
This is a common behavior that many of us engage in without even realizing it. In episode 247, Lisa will be exploring what emotional bypassing is and why it's so important to recognize and address it in our lives.
It's undeniable that the world is going through some incredibly challenging times. As someone who deeply feels the weight of these events, she understands firsthand the struggle of navigating such heavy emotions. In her own journey, she's often found herself trying to escape the pain by getting lost in her thoughts, attempting to rationalize and understand it all. But the truth is, there are some things that we will never fully comprehend, like violence, hatred, and cruelty.
However, in times like these, it becomes even more crucial to lean into the foundational principles of emotional resiliency that she teaches. It's about finding ways to support our emotional well-being, especially when we're faced with such overwhelming circumstances. And this brings us to the heart of today's discussion: emotional bypassing and toxic positivity.
I was inspired to explore this topic after coming across a thought-provoking post by The Holistic psychologist. She eloquently articulated the concept of emotional bypassing as a coping mechanism, particularly through toxic positivity.
Gratitude is a powerful tool that can help shift our perspective, and there's a difference between using gratitude as a way to avoid or bypass our true emotions and being willing to sit with and experience those uncomfortable feelings.
Why do people resort to emotional bypassing?
It stems from being disassociated from our own emotions, because of the difficulty in sitting with the heavier, darker emotions that make us uncomfortable. And in a culture that glorifies chronic positivity and denies the existence of negative emotions, it's easy to see why bypassing becomes a prevalent coping mechanism.
Throughout this episode, Lisa explores the signs of emotional bypassing and its impact on ourselves and our relationships. She approaches this discussion with curiosity, kindness, and compassion, recognizing that we've all been guilty of emotional bypassing at some point in our lives. It's time to shift the focus from judgment to understanding as we delve deeper into the journey of emotional resilience.
Episodes mentioned
Episode 244: How To Become More Resilient And Find True Strength
Episode 131: No Emotion Is Negative
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Finding Clarity in the Chaos: How to Overcome feeling ”Lost” in Life

Welcome back to episode 246 of the Full Frontal Living™ podcast! Today we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for many of us: "You're not lost or stuck."
Have you ever found yourself feeling lost or stuck in life? Wondering which path to take, or doubting your ability to navigate the unknown? Well, you're not alone. In today's episode, we'll explore the power of courage and how it can help us overcome fear and uncertainty.
I'll begin by sharing a personal experience that recently happened to me during my commute. As I found myself caught in traffic, running late for an important appointment, I realized an important lesson about being at peace with detours and surrendering to the journey.
I'll discuss the importance of having a clear vision and being honest with ourselves about what we truly want in life. So often, we label ourselves as "lost" when in reality, we have the answers within us. It just takes the courage to acknowledge and pursue our desires.
Join me as we explore the concept of being lost, finding our way, and the transformative power of embracing detours. If you're ready to break free from the limiting belief that you're lost or stuck, this episode is for you.
So grab a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and let's embark on this empowering journey together. Remember, you're not lost or stuck. You have the courage within you to navigate life's uncertainties. Let's dive in!
Link to episode 245: How To Master Fear And Doubt And Take Control Of Your Life
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How To Master Fear And Doubt To Take Control Of Your Life

Welcome to episode 245 of the Full Frontal Living podcast!
In today's master class episode, we're going to dive deep into the topic of how to master fear and doubt and take control of your life. We all face fear and doubt, no matter how successful we are or what we've accomplished. But the key is learning how to navigate these emotions in a powerful way. In this episode, we'll explore the role of fear and doubt, and how they can actually be valuable tools for growth. We'll also discuss a step-by-step process to help you move past your fears and doubts and step into your full potential. So get ready to discover the tools and strategies to conquer your fears and doubts and take control of your life. Let's dive in!
[00:00:36] Taking responsibility for fear and doubt is crucial. Regardless of how successful you may be, these emotions will always arise. Learning how to effectively deal with them is essential for personal growth. Moving past fear requires a strategy. In this episode, Lisa will provide the tool she uses personally to navigate through fear and doubt.
[00:03:54] Fear is meant to keep you safe, but can't differentiate between real and imagined threats. Determine if fear is genuine by distinguishing between real dangers and imagined scenarios in your mind. Fear and doubt aim to protect you.
[00:06:21] Naming and understanding fear; questioning worst-case scenario.
[00:09:21] The best thing is to see how crazy our fear is, and not give emotions too much meaning. Diffuse fear, doubt, and laugh at ourselves because life is meant to be fun. Most fears are just made up.
[00:14:37] The process helps to take action, laugh at oneself, and live fully.
[00:15:33] Partner with emotions, listen, distill. Create your desired life. Apply to work with Lisa at lisacarpenter.ca/collective
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How To Become More Resilient And Find True Strength

In episode 244 of The Full Frontal Living podcast, Lisa shares with her audience how to cultivate more resiliency, and it's probably NOT what you think.
Most view resiliency as the ability to be strong in the face of change, however, Lisa challenges her listeners to redefine how they view strength.
In this episode, she shares 3 powerful tips that will support you anytime life starts life-ing so that you can build resiliency that will GIVE you energy instead of leaving you feeling like you've survived. This episode is the roadmap to creating a thriving life, in any circumstance.
You won't want to miss this powerful conversation.
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Can You Chase Your Dreams on a Deadline?

Here is a summary of this week's episode:
Intentional Planning & Pursuit: Lisa highlights the power of intentional action over passive dreaming, emphasizing her strategic decisions such as returning to the stage and taking a sabbatical.
Manifestation Demystified: The truth about manifestation is revealed - it's not just about wishing, but actively working towards one's vision.
Stories of Persistence: From visions that seemed unreachable to finally bringing her family together for vacations, Lisa underscores the journey of chasing dreams.
Coaching Models: A deep dive into the merits of one-to-one coaching versus group programs. Lisa champions personalized coaching as a transformative tool.
The Human Aspect: Addressing her own "blind windows," Lisa speaks to the universal journey of self-discovery and growth. Two decades into coaching, she's still learning.
Setting Boundaries: Lisa's dedication to taking a month off is more than just a break - it's a testament to the power of setting and respecting personal boundaries.
Value Beyond Productivity: In a world obsessed with constant work, Lisa challenges the notion that one's value is tied to ceaseless output. She advocates for the necessary rest, citing it's not a luxury, but essential for peak performance.
Delegation & Simplification: Meet Bridget, Lisa's right hand. Through this introduction, Lisa drives home the idea that simplicity and delegation in business lead to profitability and peace.
Business Foundations: The pitfalls of shortcuts in health and business, emphasizing the significance of laying down solid roots for sustained success.
Redefining Success: A call to redefine success, focusing on a balanced blend of work, rest, and personal fulfillment.
Behind The Stage: Lisa shares insights about the rigors of show preparation, likening it to a full-time job, and the deep pride in making challenging tasks manageable.
Strategic Time-Off: Learn why Lisa chose August for her time-off, the value of longer days, and her decision to be part of the Vegas show.
Commitment, Vision & Finances: Lisa explores the importance of commitment, even in challenging times, and touches upon her journey from financial instability to being an advocate for financial literacy.
Embracing Imperfection: From her stage experiences to her personal life, Lisa emphasizes the power of embracing flaws and using them as growth catalysts.
The Dominican Dream: Lisa recounts the joy and complex emotions of a dream decades in the making, her family vacation to the Dominican Republic, originally intended as her wedding trip.
The Power of Self-Compassion: Navigating through tough times, Lisa discovered the strength in treating herself as she would a dear friend, balancing emotions of gratitude and grief.
Narrative & Choice: As we near the end, Lisa touches upon the stories we tell ourselves and the power we have in shaping these narratives, freeing ourselves from past constraints.
Host Insights: As the episode wraps up, the host shares their own journey, echoing Lisa's sentiments about growth, adversity, and the importance of evolving. A central theme emerges: We're not bound by our past, and every challenge can be a stepping stone for a brighter future.
One-to-One Coaching Promotion: The episode culminates with a call to prioritize personal growth and well-being, emphasizing the transformative potential of the host's coaching services.
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ENCORE: Why Aren’t You Worth Your Time and Energy?

In this blast from the past from episode 102 of the Full Frontal Living podcast, Lisa asks the tough questions about what it means when you say you don’t have time for yourself.  Self-care isn’t something you DO but a way of BEING in a relationship with yourself.  If you’re not making time for yourself a priority, consider what this is costing you and what you’re modeling to the people around you, especially your kids.   If you’re tired of being tired this is an episode you’re not going to want to miss.
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ENCORE: How to Set Boundaries In Your Battle With the Busy Work Blues

Today, I’m talking to Carly from Sydney, Australia who started working with me in June 2020. I’ve brought her on because I want to share what transpired for her in the six months we worked together. She had really profound results after a year of hesitation. She was doing busy work for the sake of being busy and using up time...and then beat herself up over not getting everything on her daily to-do list done. In this episode, we discuss how she turned it around and learn to set boundaries for herself.
6:08 - The big problem Carly discovered when she first started
11:24 - Carly taking responsibility for what was happening at work
16:23 - How data (and a figurative face slap) led to a promotion and pay raise
19:36 - Why high-functioning women constantly throw themselves under the bus
25:43 - Where the energy behind drive or ambition really comes from
31:15 - What drives Lisa a little crazy in the coaching world
36:39 - The ultimate lesson Carly learned about herself
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ENCORE: Does Chaos Feel Comfortable and Calm Feel Weird?

🔙#Throwback to an insightful episode where Lisa dives deep into what she experienced in the latter part of 2021 and the impact on her nervous system.  This episode is a MUST listen for anyone who knows how to put your head down and just keep going regardless of what the world throws at you.She discusses the difference between caring for yourself vs what it looks like to care for you nervous system.  She also explains why calm can feel so uncomfortable for her clients and how to unravel yourself from normalizing chaos.
How to identify when your nervous system is dysregulated and you’re living in your sympathetic (fight or flight) stress response system vs what it looks and feels when your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) is in the driver's seat?
You’ll learn what each of these systems represents and the tools to shift you back into your body.
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The Holistic Psychologist and her book Do the Work which can be found on Amazon: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
Jake Curry: https://www.mindbodymasters.com/

ENCORE: How an Alter Ego Can Change You and Your World

A while back, I did an episode about my alter ego Tylere and even read a bit from the document I created for her back in 2016. When I wrote that document, I couldn’t see how it’d come to fruition, nor did I really believe it ever would. But after my WBFF show, I realize that I’ve fully embraced and become that alter ego to the point where I don’t even need one anymore. Today I want to talk a little bit about your alter ego and using it to serve you and help you move forward.
3:06 - The biggest selling point of writing your alter ego document
4:35 - Why red lipstick came to symbolize my alter ego
7:33 - Example questions to think about as you consider your alter ego
12:02 - The commonality between your alter ego and dressing up as a kid
15:07 - How I reminded myself to ask what my alter ego would do in situations
16:21 - What my alter ego allowed me to understand about myself
20:25 - The only difference between you and me
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ENCORE: How To Create Your Alter Ego And Become The Woman You’ve Dreamed About

In todays episode Lisa shares how she transformed from insecure and self-doubting into the powerhouse master coach she is today.  She openly shares the alter ego she created who already was living her vision and how you can do the same.
All the links mentioned in the show can be found below:
Lisa's alter ego document can be found HERE
Todd Hermans's "The Alter Ego Effect" 
Jim Fortin's free training "Why doing more is preventing you from transforming your life & what you should be doing instead" can be found HERE
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