Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.

Does chaos feel comfortable and calm feel weird?

In Episode 163 Lisa dives deep into what she experience in the latter part of 2021 and the impact on her nervous system. This episode is a MUST listen for anyone who knows how to put your head down and just keep going regardless of what the world throws at you.
She discusses the difference between caring for yourself vs what it looks like to care for you nervous system. She also explains why calm can feel so uncomfortable for her clients and how to unravel yourself from normalizing chaos.
How to identify when your nervous system is disregulated and you're living in your sympathetic (fight or flight) stress response system vs what it looks and feels when your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) is in the drivers seat.
You'll learn what each of these systems represent and tools to shift you back into your body.
For more resources and information she referenced
The Holistic Psychologist and her book Do the Work which can be found on Amazon
https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
Jake Curry
https://www.mindbodymasters.com/

Do you make smart decisions when you’re sick or do you push through?

With many people around the world becoming ill with the newest Covid variant, today Lisa is sharing her journey of being ill. This isn't an episode about how to navigate Covid, but how to look at being sick as an opportunity to slow down, rest and partner with your body to heal. For anyone listening, this is a lesson in working from commitment and playing the long game in life, business and in the gym.
No one likes to be sick, but with the right mindset, your performance will be even better when you're back on your feet.
3:30 What does taking full responsibility for you health look like?
5:18 Lisa's experience (and her families) with Covid
11:01 Commitment to workouts vs commitment to getting well
14:37 The gifts in rest physically and emotionally
15:42 Why parasympathetic nervous system regulation is so important and is often over looked in self care
20:00 What might happen if you slowed down, made rest a priority and honored these pause moments in life?
21:07 Why habits are so important as your foundation
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Will the Real You Please Stand Up? Speaking with Laurie-Ann Murabito

The problem you think you have isn’t the problem you actually have. I’ve often said that on this podcast. And the journey that my client and guest today, Laurie-Ann Murabito, took from reformed painfully shy girl to accidental professional speaker illustrates it well. In this episode, she and I talk about perfectionism, self-trust, and showing up as the real you so you can get the outcomes you want in your life and business.
4:01 - Re-defining the speaker role beyond booking the stage
7:18 - How letting go of perfectionist tendencies can change you
13:33 - The difference in how Laurie-Ann responds to negative self-talk since we started working together
14:51 - How perfectionist tendencies trapped Laurie-Ann in a pattern of procrastination in her business
18:43 - Beware of succumbing to either extreme end of the Disney princess syndrome
24:34 - Helping other women step into their stories and leadership roles as speakers
30:22 - Why I’ve learned to be detached to the outcome of anything I do in my business
32:19 - Laurie-Ann’s in-depth plans to support and work with clients this year
35:18 - Why speaking might just be the best form of marketing and the fastest way to grow your business
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The lessons of 2021 and what grief can teach you about acceptance.

2021 was a wild ride. It was the best of times and the worst of times and in this episode Lisa reflects on the lessons and events of the year. From phenomenal success with her stage debut in Vegas with the WBFF to the grief of mandates in an always changing pandemic world.
She shares what she is committed to in 2022 and the energy and changes she's making to support an expansive new year.
Referenced in the show:
Conversations with Lisa Podcast with Lisa Corduff https://lisacorduff.com/ep80/

How I Learned to Embrace Discipline As a Good Thing In My Life

What comes up whenever you hear the word “discipline”? Do images of drill sergeants dance in your head? Do your hackles raise up?
I’ve had an interesting dance with the concept of discipline over the years. I used to love it... until I went through a stage that caused me to hate the very mention of it.
Now I’m back to a place where I see discipline as the most loving thing I can give myself. In this episode, I talk about that history, cover how discipline ties into your view of yourself, and illustrate why it’s nothing more than a word with whatever connotation you choose to give it.
1:59 - Our dichotomous relationship with discipline
4:21 - How your body can still respond to stress even if you don’t feel stressed
7:14 - The time I wanted nothing to do with discipline
9:22 - How I tried to take the edge out of the word “discipline”
11:08 - The benefits that discipline gives me and how I embrace it in my life now
13:45 - Looking at the stories you’ve given to specific words
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What Your Ability to Receive Says About You

How do you view receiving help, compliments, gifts, and so on from others? What do you make receiving mean about yourself? In this episode, I dive into the massive problem many givers and over givers have with the flip side of giving. You’ll hear some of my stories about receiving, blocking that energy, and what it means when you do, in hopes that you’ll look at your behavioral patterns to see if there’s a need for change.
1:40 - Why this used to be a highly triggering time of the year for me
3:52 - How the way you receive affects the way you give as well
6:16 - Realizing when you’re fighting for your limitations
9:25 - Why I felt like the Wicked Witch of Oz in a group therapy session and the stunning self-realization it led to
13:59 - How your relationship with receiving can show up in various areas of your life
16:05 - What it looks like from the giver perspective when you block yourself from receiving their gift
17:33 - What is it costing you to not receive help?
20:15 - The question to ask yourself this holiday season
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Your Life, Your Choice: Your Power to See Things Differently

Has this year had you on a bit of an emotional roller coaster? I know this year has been a very confronting year for me. I’ve been seeing things differently and riding a wave of emotion. It’s a reminder that you can always look at how you react to your life in different ways. So how can we respond to our lives differently, now that the season of contemplation is upon us with New Year’s approaching?
3:36 - Sharing an old Facebook memory of my oldest son from 2019
6:09 - Why acknowledging your feelings isn’t a “one-and-done” deal
8:54 - The real source of your grief and emotional distress
12:11 - Two moments that changed the trajectory of my life
15:03 - Try this as you head into this holiday season
16:30 - The different choices I want to make for myself this holiday season
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Read The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown.
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Why Giving Doesn’t Make You Great

In Canada and the U.S., the season of giving started in early October: giving candy to strangers and thanks to our fortunes over the past year. Now, the season of giving is about to be cranked up for everyone with the addition of giving gifts to loved ones and money to good causes.
In this re-released episode, I want to unpack the perils of giving to the point of exhaustion, frustration, anger, and resentment. Women especially get caught in this cycle of giving as a way of showing love and demonstrating that everyone and everything comes before we do. Instead, let’s talk about shifting your energy and giving from a place of love, not lack.
4:40 - Why women operate from a place of martyrdom
6:42 - The client who was conditioned to hand her worthiness over to someone else
8:03 - How a kid’s book demonstrates what I see wrong about the belief women have about our value
11:03 - Reading a post from a private group that sparked an earth-shattering “aha!” moment
13:48 - The root of giving all of your love away to others and how it robs you
16:52 - What do love and a chocolate fountain have in common?
18:09 - How the discomfort you might feel in putting yourself first helps you grow
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The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein
Episode 15: “How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids and Be a Great Mom”
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What Happens When You Are Committed to Being Overcommitted?

The concept of commitment is an interesting beast. It’s never something I’ve struggled with personally. I’m a pretty committed person, and it actually isn’t a problem for many people. What I find most of my clients struggling with is overcommitment. They become so driven for success that they overdue it. So in this episode, I want to address how I’ve created success for myself by being 100% committed to a lot less.
3:20 - How I’m being very committed to being non-committed
6:59 - Where I see so many people run into problems with overcommitment
8:17 - The key component to following through on your commitments
10:06 - What to do if you’re struggling to achieve your goal(s) despite being so committed
11:37 - Why I see discipline as an act of self-love
13:42 - Is it a commitment problem or an impatience problem?
16:26 - A way to achieve what you want that goes against conventional wisdom
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Milestones and Challenges of the Year Gone By As I Celebrate Birthday #49

I turned 49 years old on the day of recording this episode, so happy birthday to me! Your 40s is the time to really release attachment to what others think about you and discover the stories you tell yourself about yourself, at least that’s been my experience. Every year on my birthday, I reflect on the past year and set my intention for the year going forward. So in this episode, I’m taking this opportunity, feeling the feels about my birthday, and sharing it with you!
5:19 - Reflecting on the challenge of crossing a big financial threshold in my business this year
7:29 - Stepping into a leadership role and making my debut on stage in 2022
10:18 - Why my 48th year on this planet was one of the hardest years of my life
13:01 - What I had to do to really start standing in my power and my values
16:56 - Looking ahead to my 49th year and feeling grateful for friends and you, listener
22:02 - How you can begin to create your own conscious journey moving forward
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