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Why Giving Doesn’t Make You Great

In Canada and the U.S., the season of giving started in early October: giving candy to strangers and thanks to our fortunes over the past year. Now, the season of giving is about to be cranked up for everyone with the addition of giving gifts to loved ones and money to good causes.
In this re-released episode, I want to unpack the perils of giving to the point of exhaustion, frustration, anger, and resentment. Women especially get caught in this cycle of giving as a way of showing love and demonstrating that everyone and everything comes before we do. Instead, let’s talk about shifting your energy and giving from a place of love, not lack.
4:40 - Why women operate from a place of martyrdom
6:42 - The client who was conditioned to hand her worthiness over to someone else
8:03 - How a kid’s book demonstrates what I see wrong about the belief women have about our value
11:03 - Reading a post from a private group that sparked an earth-shattering “aha!” moment
13:48 - The root of giving all of your love away to others and how it robs you
16:52 - What do love and a chocolate fountain have in common?
18:09 - How the discomfort you might feel in putting yourself first helps you grow
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The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein
Episode 15: “How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids and Be a Great Mom”
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What Happens When You Are Committed to Being Overcommitted?

The concept of commitment is an interesting beast. It’s never something I’ve struggled with personally. I’m a pretty committed person, and it actually isn’t a problem for many people. What I find most of my clients struggling with is overcommitment. They become so driven for success that they overdue it. So in this episode, I want to address how I’ve created success for myself by being 100% committed to a lot less.
3:20 - How I’m being very committed to being non-committed
6:59 - Where I see so many people run into problems with overcommitment
8:17 - The key component to following through on your commitments
10:06 - What to do if you’re struggling to achieve your goal(s) despite being so committed
11:37 - Why I see discipline as an act of self-love
13:42 - Is it a commitment problem or an impatience problem?
16:26 - A way to achieve what you want that goes against conventional wisdom
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Milestones and Challenges of the Year Gone By As I Celebrate Birthday #49

I turned 49 years old on the day of recording this episode, so happy birthday to me! Your 40s is the time to really release attachment to what others think about you and discover the stories you tell yourself about yourself, at least that’s been my experience. Every year on my birthday, I reflect on the past year and set my intention for the year going forward. So in this episode, I’m taking this opportunity, feeling the feels about my birthday, and sharing it with you!
5:19 - Reflecting on the challenge of crossing a big financial threshold in my business this year
7:29 - Stepping into a leadership role and making my debut on stage in 2022
10:18 - Why my 48th year on this planet was one of the hardest years of my life
13:01 - What I had to do to really start standing in my power and my values
16:56 - Looking ahead to my 49th year and feeling grateful for friends and you, listener
22:02 - How you can begin to create your own conscious journey moving forward
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Why Do We Avoid Slowing Down? An Exercise In Silence

Have you ever thought about what it looks like to slow down? Or why so many of us want to avoid it? I used to be the kind of person who refused to slow down. But in this episode, I talk about what it took for me to finally sit in silence for a while and the things I discovered about myself. Hopefully, it’ll help you uncover some things about yourself too, especially if you’re the really driven, ambitious type.
1:35 - Why I struggled to do an exercise that involved sitting in silence for four hours
5:20 - The thing that will change who you’re being and how you’re showing up in the world
8:28 - The breakthrough that allowed me to finally sit in silence for that long
11:51 - What happened as I sat with myself for those four hours
16:57 - A powerful question you may want to explore for yourself
19:52 - Shifting your perspective to enjoy the journey towards your goal
22:06 - How this silent exercise is like listening to a friend
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What Do You Do When Something Threatens to Ruin Your Day?

Do you tend to go off the deep end when things don’t go the way you want when you want them? Life rarely goes according to plan. I used to lose my shit when something went wrong in my day, but these days I live from a place where everything will always work out even when things look dicey.
Sometimes, though, when things aren’t working it can be a challenge to get yourself back into that space. So in this episode, I want to talk about how to trust in yourself and the belief that everything will be okay.
3:09 - The choice I had to make that could’ve ruined my day
5:07 - How easily things can cascade when one thing goes wrong, if you let it
6:24 - The question to ask yourself when something doesn’t go your way
7:09 - How living from a state of constant, aggravated reaction to events can affect your well-being
8:37 - Practice this if something goes wrong today
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Looking at Rest as a Success Strategy

You might have big, audacious goals and feel unapologetic about wanting to create an extraordinary life for yourself. I know I want that for myself as well. But are you addicted to doing more, working more, achieving more to the detriment of your health?
Just because you want more doesn’t mean you have to burn yourself out in the process. In fact, rest is my #1 success strategy. So in today’s episode, I really want to discuss why I view it as such and how you can start to look at rest differently.
2:52 - What is your relationship with rest?
3:57 - Why I really struggled to learn how to rest
6:22 - How the past year or so of the pandemic has impacted me and my nervous system
12:16 - Why you need data and can’t just rely on feelings when it comes to stress
14:32 - How I make rest a priority and why I need to go even further
19:24 - Using self-hypnosis as a tool to help settle the nervous system
22:35 - Things you can do to help regulate your nervous system
26:47 - Ten signs of adrenal fatigue to watch out for
35:15 - Taking an inventory of your own life right now
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Download Lisa’s article “Adrenal Fatigue: Signs and Symptoms”.
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How to Care for Yourself Through Art Connection with Cindy Ingram

If you’ve been listening for a while, you know I tend to talk a lot about how to care for yourself. Today, I have a special guest on with me to discuss this in a way I’ve never really dove into before.
Cindy Ingram is a former client of mine, as well as a good friend and colleague. As an art lover, former art teacher, and art connection facilitator, Cindy knows that art is a great way to connect with your emotions. I know that, for me, art has become really powerful but not necessarily in the way we think of art.
So in this episode, we delve into emotional fluency and feeling your feelings but through the lens of personal art connection. Cindy even walks me through an interactive exercise where I personally connect with a work of art live, right here on the show!
2:11 - Cindy discusses her deeply emotional connection with art
5:55 - Art’s ability to allow you feel safe in your feelings
7:38 - Using art as a tool to practice self-care
10:54 - The tendency of different forms of art to meet you wherever you are in your life
15:36 - Why even artwork that bores or repels you is worth exploring
19:51 - Approaching self-care and art in a different way
25:17 - A fun exercise where I personally connect with a work of art by Miquel Barceló
36:18 - What’s different for me after doing this exercise
39:09 - Where the real meaning behind any work of art can be found
42:42 - How art can serve as a safety net for hard conversations
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View Sopa d’Europa by Miquel Barceló.
Join Cindy’s Art Connection Circle and listen to her podcast, Art Class Curator.
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What Is the Cycle of Relapse? Getting a Grip on Your Red Flag Behaviors

Talking about the cycle of relapse sounds dramatic, like I’m talking about an addict in recovery, right? And in a way, that’s not far from the truth, but what do I really mean here? The cycle of relapse is really about understanding behaviors you exhibit that pull you out of alignment with yourself and prevent you from feeling good.
These are your red flag behaviors and they crop up long before you even get to the relapse stage. But it all starts with you being triggered by something. In this episode, I discuss how to uncover and understand your red flag behaviors and even walk you through how I figured out and dealt with some of my own.
5:54 - One of the red flag behaviors I repeated for a very long time
9:32 - How I recently found myself caught up in a whole bunch of red flag behaviors
18:22 - Another red flag behavior of mine (that you probably do too) and what it signifies for me
21:16 - Quick examples of more red flag behaviors people repeat
26:40 - A former red flag behavior of mine regarding money
27:27 - Figuring out your partner’s red flag behaviors and discovering your own
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Why You Really Have a Priority Problem, Not a Time Problem

I recorded this episode the same week Facebook and Instagram went lights out. Some people went into a bit of a tailspin over the downtime, but for me it was an awesome day! There was nothing to do but just be completely present in my life.
Your experience might have been different though. Did you find yourself feeling fearful and anxious? Did you struggle to figure out what to do when you kept reaching for your phone to check social media, only to remember it wasn’t available?
One thing I often hear from women is about the lack of time they have to do the things they want. But I’m here to tell you, it’s never a time problem. It’s a priority problem, and too many people have made Facebook and Instagram such big priorities that they’ve become addicted. So in this episode, I want to talk about the opportunity the social media blackout presented, one which invited us to look at where we spend our time and energy.
1:58 - Why Facebook’s downtime didn’t impact me or my business
3:56 - How to figure out exactly how you spend your time
7:07 - A reminder of why you don’t have to be on social media every day
8:26 - The difference between numbing vs. intentional behavior
11:28 - The innocence of a time before social media addiction
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How to Deal With the Unexpected Dark Side of Goal Setting

Goal setting has a dark side to it that people don’t talk about. It’s why so many of us struggle in the aftermath of attaining a goal. We can end up creating a whole host of problems for ourselves if we’re unaware. So in this episode, I want to share my thoughts and experiences with the dark side of setting and achieving goals, why we set goals, and why so many of us go backwards after achieving them.
4:19 - Why goal setting is never really about the outcome
4:48 - How I’ve struggled to deal with the lows after my WBFF show
6:11 - The reason why so many of my clients set goals one right after the other
7:22 - Why I grieved when I finally paid off my debt
9:26 - Working towards vs. away from something
11:09 - Where the lessons from achieving your goals hide
17:50 - Honoring the time period after attaining a goal
19:40 - Why you keep repeating patterns when attempting to achieve a goal like weight loss
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