Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.

When Imposter Syndrome Looks Like Strategy (And Why Your Partnerships Might Be Hiding Your Genius) with Andrea Janzen

You tell yourself you're being strategic. That you're building collaborations, finding complementary skill sets, creating win-win partnerships. But what if the real reason you keep looking for someone else to do it with you is because you don't believe you're enough on your own?
Andrea Janzen built a wildly successful leadership development company in one of the most male-dominated industries on the planet: construction. She's coached over 1,000 construction professionals, works with multinational companies, hosts the Ambition Theory Podcast, and is a Forbes contributor. On the outside, she's absolutely killing it.
But for years, Andrea was running a story underneath all that success. A story that said she wasn't legitimate without an HR background. That she needed partners to fill her gaps. That her energy and authentic approach weren't enough to carry her business forward.
The cost? She almost missed massive opportunities. She hid her greatest strengths. She exhausted herself trying to prove her worth. And even when she was achieving goals she'd journaled about years earlier, she couldn't let herself feel successful.
Until a client said five words that changed everything: "We just want to work with you."
In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Andrea reveals:
The "not enough" story that drove her to seek business partners from scarcity, not strategy (and how to tell the difference)
Why high achievers mistake imposter syndrome for missing credentials, when the real issue is hiding their genius
The moment a client reflected back what she couldn't see in herself (and why we need mirrors when building something new)
How over-functioning and resentment are your body's way of telling you you've abandoned personal responsibility
Why she can journal about goals, achieve them years later, and still not feel successful (and what actually needs to shift)
The practice of looking back at where you were five years ago as medicine for "never enough"
How setting a 3pm work boundary and a shutdown ritual actually accelerated her business growth
Why Santa now deposits $100/month for mandatory date nights (and what her kids are learning about prioritizing relationships)
The difference between partnerships built from lack versus partnerships built from abundance
Why solo time in nature, crime novels at the library, and protecting her energy are non-negotiables for showing up powerfully
This episode is for you if you've ever:
Told yourself you needed more credentials, certifications, or partners before you could really go for it
Built something impressive but secretly felt like an imposter the entire time
Looked for others to validate or legitimize what you're creating instead of trusting yourself
Achieved goals you set years ago but moved the bar so fast you never celebrated
Known you were over-functioning and carrying everything, then resented others for not stepping up
Felt more comfortable being "strategic" about collaboration than admitting you're scared to do it alone
Wondered if your authentic energy and approach could really be enough in a world that values traditional credentials
 
About Andrea Janzen:
Andrea Janzen is a Certified Executive Coach with an MBA, the host of the Ambition Theory Podcast, a Forbes contributor, and a top-rated speaker. She is passionate about coaching construction professionals to develop themselves, set leadership goals, and get results. Since 2018, Andrea has coached and trained over 1,000 construction professionals. Before becoming a coach, Andrea was a marketing leader who worked on some of the world's best-known brands.
Connect with Andrea:
Ambition Theory
Ambition Theory Podcast
Leadership Accelerator for Women in Construction
Building Better Report
 
Ready to stop hiding behind partnerships and step into what you're actually capable of?
Here's what Andrea's story reveals: The "not enough" story doesn't go away with more credentials, more partners, or more proof. It goes away when you finally see what's been true all along, that your energy, your authentic approach, your unique way of seeing things, that's not a gap to fill. That's your genius.
But most high achievers can't see this on their own. We need someone to hold up the mirror, to name the pattern we're running, to show us where we're hiding instead of leading.
That's exactly what the Congruency Audit does.
The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact "not enough" story keeping you stuck, the ways you're over-functioning or seeking external validation instead of trusting yourself, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
If Andrea's story hit you somewhere deep, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of seeking partners from scarcity or achieving goals without feeling successful, this call is for you.
Book your Congruency Audit
This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

When Playing It Safe Almost Cost Her Everything (And the Breaking Point That Changed Her Life) with Tracy Goodwin

What if the very thing you thought was keeping you safe was actually suffocating your soul?
Tracy Goodwin had a gift she couldn't deny. She could hear things in people's voices that no one else could hear, seven layers of sound that revealed scars, wounds, and the real person buried beneath years of conditioning. But instead of stepping into that power, she played it safe. She taught traditional voice coaching while her radical insights screamed to get out.
Then the hate came. International hate clubs. Requests to appear on national television to be humiliated on purpose. Daily emails telling her she was an "effing piece of" nothing, that she shouldn't exist, that she should be dead. Her life was literally threatened because she wouldn't accommodate someone's request, because she wouldn't conform to what others wanted her to be.
So she went into hiding. She refinished furniture for years, sanding away layers of old paint and varnish while God sanded away her excuses.
Until she heard the voice she'd been running from: "What are you doing? I didn't put you down there to finish furniture. I need you back in the game."
Within 24 hours, the concept of psychology of the voice became crystal clear.
 
In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Tracy reveals:
The self-inflicted torture of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear and people-pleasing
How childhood wounds of being silenced before age five show up in the way you communicate today
The moment she realized furniture refinishing was a metaphor for her real work: sanding away the fabricated layers of who people think they're supposed to be
Why staying safe in people-pleasing mode almost made her lose her mind
The progression of redefining success from wanting to be a famous celebrity in her 20s, to chasing money in her 30s, to her mission at 50: touching every life that must hear from her before she's gone
How she went from taking months to recover from conflict to catching herself in minutes
The hardest practice of all: meeting yourself with compassion when you've spent a lifetime being as hard on yourself as the world has been on you
Why your voice is the literal orchestra of your heart, and there is someone desperately waiting for your message
The five core wounds that stop high performers from owning their greatness: fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, sense of belonging, and worthiness
 
This episode is for you if you've ever:
Felt successful on the outside while quietly crumbling on the inside
Known you had a gift but been too terrified to fully step into it
Stayed small to keep others comfortable or avoid judgment
Wondered "is this all there is?" while everyone else thinks you have it all figured out
Struggled to give yourself the compassion you so freely give to others
Been paralyzed by the gap between what you know you're capable of and what you're actually doing
 
Tracy Goodwin is a voice decoder, researcher, and voice behavioralist who works with the psychology of the voice. She helps high-performing leaders understand how their voice holds their scars, wounds, and power, ultimately getting them back to who they were put on this earth to be versus who the world told them to be.
Find Tracy at:
Instagram/TikTok: @‌captivatetherroom
Website: Home
LinkedIn: Tracy A. Goodwin
 
Ready to stop playing it safe with your own life?
If Tracy's story hit you in the chest, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear, it's time to stop hiding behind the version of success that's quietly killing you.
The congruency audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in the "never enough" cycle, the wounds driving your over-responsibility, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
No more self-inflicted torture of knowing there's more but being too afraid to reach for it. No more settling for accomplishments that leave you empty.
Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit
This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

The True Cost of Success (and Why It Never Feels Like Enough)

You’ve achieved more than most people, but if you’re honest, it’s come at a cost — to your health, your relationships, your energy, maybe even your sense of peace. And here’s the kicker: no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough.
In this very first episode of Congruent, Lisa Carpenter pulls back the curtain on the truth about success. Why do so many high-achieving men and women deny or downplay their success? Why does “making it” rarely feel the way we imagined it would? And what does it actually take to create success that sustains you instead of drains you?
Lisa shares her own story of chasing achievement while never feeling successful, and how a life-changing season forced her to embody everything she’d been teaching for over a decade. She reveals the hidden costs of “do-er mode,” the patterns that keep ambitious people stuck, and the shifts required to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
 
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Why success often comes with hidden costs.
The gap between how others see you and how you see yourself.
The real reason nothing ever feels like enough.
The difference between numbing with busyness vs. living in congruence.
What congruent success looks and feels like.
What to expect from this podcast each week.
If you’ve been chasing achievement but still feel unfulfilled, exhausted, or disconnected, this episode will help you see that you’re not broken — you’ve been conditioned. And there’s a different way forward.
👉 Ready to uncover where you’re out of alignment? Book your free 15-minute Congruency Audit.
Subscribe now so you don’t miss next week’s episode: The Real Cost of Over-Doing (and How to Break the Cycle Without Losing Your Ambition).

ENCORE: Why You Don’t Need a Coach (But Why You May Want One)

Fresh off an incredible two-day retreat in the beautiful Okanagan, Lisa dives deep into the story that keeps so many driven, ambitious people trapped: "I should know this stuff already."If you've been drowning in personal development for years, reading all the books, taking the courses, working with coaches, and you're still stuck in the same patterns, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:The Truth About "Should Know Better" Lisa breaks down why believing you should already have it figured out is the exact thing keeping you stuck. She shares how this story kept her trapped for years and why it's actually keeping you from the transformation you're craving.The Bus vs. Plane Analogy We don't need coaches. We're all capable of finding our way. But working with a one-to-one coach is the difference between taking a bus across the country versus hopping on a plane. Same destination, completely different timeline.Lisa's Money Story Transformation For years, Lisa thought she had a money problem. The real problem? She was constantly holding her attention on what she didn't have instead of recognizing the abundance that was already there. She shares the specific questions she asked herself that shifted everything.The Four Phases of TransformationAwareness - Discovering what's really holding you back (spoiler: it's not what you think)Acceptance - That hard pill moment when you realize the problem isn't the problemPractice - The part nobody wants to do but everyone needs to doEmbodiment - Where you become aware of your red flags and know how to bring yourself back to center fasterThe Real Cost of Playing SmallLisa challenges you to ask yourself: What is it costing you to get stuck in your stories? How much longer are you going to use "I should know this" as an excuse to not make the investment in yourself that you need to make?She shares her own journey of learning to stop shrinking, to show up as a leader, and how working with coaches for two decades has allowed her to create the life and business she has today.The Dragon Unicorn MomentLisa shares a powerful story about a friend telling her: "You not standing out is like a dragon unicorn standing in the middle of a field, not standing out." This became a turning point in her journey of accepting that she's here to lead.Bottom LineYou have information, but information is nothing without action. Nothing. The most successful, emotionally well people Lisa knows have worked with coaches, not because there's anything wrong with them, but because they value personal growth and want to show up as more powerful leaders in their lives.Take ActionIf this episode resonates with you:Stop telling yourself you should have it figured out by nowConsider what's really holding you back from taking actionAsk yourself: What would be possible if these stories didn't exist?Fill out Lisa's market research form (link in show notes)Book a conversation with Lisa at lisacarpenter.ca/wwmThis Week's Challenge: Really ask yourself what you want and what you need for your own personal transformation. Give yourself permission to want what you want, need what you need, and get out of the story that you should be doing it all by yourself.You can be driven and ambitious and want more in your life, but you don't have to do it at your own personal sacrifice. Make you a priority this week.Want to work with Lisa? She's looking for driven, ambitious humans who are ready to stop playing small and create their extraordinary lives. Visit lisacarpenter.ca/wwm to learn more.

ENCORE: One Key Factor to Make Doing the Difficult Things Easier

Lisa dives deep into the confusion around "let it be easy" versus doing hard things. If you've been avoiding uncomfortable actions or pushing through everything with force, this episode reveals the difference between allowing and forcing, and why both approaches can keep you stuck.Many of Lisa's clients are excellent at doing hard things. They're masters at pushing through, putting their heads down, and forcing things to happen. But there's a crucial difference between forcing and pushing versus allowing. The energy behind the action matters as much as the action itself.Lisa woke up with sore legs, knowing she had to train glutes that day. Heavy weights, high volume, very mental. She didn't feel like it. But she's committed to her outcome, and she knows that if she starts negotiating with herself based on how she feels, she's already losing.Instead of wasting energy negotiating or switching to upper body, she went straight to the gym. While warming up, she shifted her energy from "Oh my God, this is going to be so hard and take so long" to reminding herself that she's strong, capable, and her body can do this. She tuned into her body's yes or no signals, which is different than just not feeling like it.The key insight: she went in knowing it would be hard and asked "How can I allow this to be easier?"Whether you're trying to transform your body, lose weight, or grow a business, it's going to be hard. Lisa can't tell you how many face-down moments she's had in business, how many hard decisions she's made, how much adversity she's faced. Being an entrepreneur isn't for everyone and it's definitely not a walk in the park.When you're doing hard things, it's confronting. You have to look at your limiting beliefs, the stories you're telling yourself, your current identity and ways of being. You have to stare all of that down, and it's really uncomfortable.Most people aren't willing to do uncomfortable things. So Lisa asks: is it that it's hard, or is it that it's uncomfortable and we don't want to do uncomfortable things?For many high-achievers, the hardest, most uncomfortable thing isn't pushing through more activities. It's learning to slow down, say no, make rest a priority, have more fun, take things off their plate, be in the discomfort of not taking care of everybody else, and actually making themselves a priority.When Lisa was learning to rest, she had to dismantle all her stories and beliefs: rest was lazy, rest was unproductive, rest was for "those people." She had things to do. It was tied to her identity as an overachiever who wore "busy" as a badge of honor. She could do all the things and take care of everybody else while doing them. No wonder she burned out.To heal, she had to learn that slowing down was the hard thing for an over-doer. Most people would say slowing down isn't hard, but when you're wired to constantly achieve, slowing down is the most uncomfortable thing you can do.Lisa had to learn how to make rest feel easier. Resting felt torturous, so she shifted her energy by reminding herself what rest would bring: healing, strength, the ability to do more ultimately. Rest wasn't going to take away from anything. She had to learn to honor and value rest, and that's how she allowed the hard thing to be easier.Get comfortable being uncomfortable. The more you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable, that's when the magic happens. In that discomfort, you can adjust your energy so that even when it's uncomfortable, you still find a way to win and honor your energy.The question becomes: what feels hard that you've been avoiding? And what things are you doing that you're telling yourself are hard that, if you shifted your energy around them, you could allow to be easier?Thank you for being part of this community. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear this message.

ENCORE: The 3 Biggest Mistakes People Make Trying to Protect Their Energy

If you're feeling drained despite all your efforts to manage your time and boundaries, you're probably making these three critical mistakes that are actually robbing you of the very energy you're trying to preserve. This episode reveals why your current strategies are backwards and what to focus on instead. Mistake #1: Waiting for Others to ChangeThe biggest energy drain is believing that other people or circumstances changing is the solution to feeling better. You're living in "when then" mode. When your partner changes, when you have more time, when your kids are older, when you get a new job, THEN you'll have energy for yourself.This is giving away your power entirely.External circumstances changing doesn't automatically give you more energy or make you prioritize yourself better.If you believe your husband, kids, or schedule needs to change before you can feel better, you're putting yourself in a powerless position where forces outside of you control your wellbeing. That costs you massive amounts of energy because you're fighting what you can't control. Mistake #2: Thinking It's a Time Management ProblemThis is like slapping lipstick on a pig. You're looking for a solution to the wrong problem.Time management is easy when you know how you're prioritizing your time and what needs to get done. No system or strategy is going to give you more energy. The people Lisa works with are some of the most productive people she's ever met. They're so productive they don't even realize they're over-functioning way beyond what they need to do in a day.Here's what's really happening: you create organized systems and free up space, then immediately fill that space back up because you're uncomfortable with calm. You say you want more time and energy, but you're actually more committed to filling that time because you feel calm in the chaos.It takes serious nervous system regulation to get comfortable being calm in the calm. Most people feel more comfortable in chaos than in peace, so they'll always create things to bring them back to busyness. Mistake #3: Using Worry as a Problem-Solving StrategyThis is where Lisa gets really honest about her own patterns. Worrying and focusing on the problem as a way to fix the problem. Many of Lisa's clients have unraveled the belief that there's even a problem when often what they find is they've created a problem where none existed.Consider what worry is giving you. Many of us learned that the more we worry, the more responsible we're being about handling things. But where did you learn that worry was the way to solve problems? You get more of what you focus on.Lisa shares her personal example with money worry. She didn't have a money problem she had a worry-about-money problem. She spent tremendous energy worrying about debt, asking herself how she'd pay it off, if she'd be okay. Then she developed a strategy to break the worry cycle. Lisa's Worry-Breaking StrategyShe started asking herself: "Is anything different today from yesterday?" The answer was always no. "Did you spend all day yesterday worrying?" Yes. "Did that change anything?" No. "Is anything different today?" No. "Did anything bad happen yesterday?" No.Day after day after day, she had evidence that worrying wasn't changing anything and nothing bad was actually happening. No bill collectors showed up. Nobody took her car. Nothing bad was happening. In that moment, she'd tell herself to stop spending energy worrying and put that energy into being responsible for doing things that would support the outcome she wanted.If something had changed when she asked those questions, it still came back to: what do I need to take responsibility for in this moment? Then she'd do that thing and move on. Ready to break these energy-draining patterns and create sustainable energy that supports your extraordinary life? Connect with Lisa at LisaCarpenter.ca/wwm to explore what's possible.

ENCORE: How to Feel More Successful and Productive by Doing Less

In a world bombarded with optimization strategies and endless to-do lists, Lisa challenges the conventional wisdom that more equals better. This episode cuts through the noise to reveal why high-performers often sabotage themselves with impossible standards and how to break free from the "all or nothing" trap that keeps you stuck.We're drowning in information about how to optimize everything, and it's creating paralysis for high-achievers. When you can't do something perfectly, you opt out entirely. This happens with health, relationships, business, and self-care. The result? Zero action equals zero results, even though some results are infinitely better than none.Lisa breaks down the core pillars that actually matter for performance: sleep, movement, nutrition, outdoor time, relationships (especially with yourself), and hydration. These basics don't change, but we get distracted by every new optimization strategy instead of mastering what we know works.Everyone's talking about cold plunging for nervous system benefits, but Lisa reveals why she doesn't do it despite knowing the benefits. She's already doing hard things and chooses different hard things that support her nervous system post-burnout. The lesson? Don't do things just because others say you should. Choose what works for YOUR life and nervous system.What if you gave yourself permission to go to the gym once a week instead of five times? What if you committed to one healthy breakfast instead of overhauling your entire diet? What if you meditated for five minutes instead of aiming for an hour? The key is finding the minimum you can commit to and actually stick with it.For years, Lisa used being hard on herself as motivation. This worked until it didn't. When you're using self-criticism to move forward, you're in an abusive relationship with yourself. The shift? You can achieve more through strategic kindness than constant criticism.Sometimes the answer isn't adding more strategies—it's consciously deciding what to stop doing. Put a pin in optimization techniques that don't fit your current bandwidth. Schedule a reminder to revisit them in three to six months. Give yourself permission to let things go without guilt.Can you sit with yourself in silence for five minutes? If not, what does that say about your relationship with yourself? What are you running from? What stories are you telling yourself about what you "should" be doing? These questions reveal the deeper patterns keeping you stuck.This episode is for high-achievers who feel like they're constantly failing despite doing everything "right." If self-care feels like another job on your to-do list, if you opt out of healthy habits because you can't do them perfectly, or if you're ready to challenge the stories keeping you overwhelmed, this episode will shift your perspective.Choose one foundational area where you want improvement. Ask yourself what's the absolute minimum you can commit to and actually stick with. Notice what stories come up when you consider doing "less." Then give yourself permission to let everything else go for now while you build this one sustainable habit.Success and fulfillment don't come from doing all the things—they come from doing the right things consistently. When you master the basics and build on a solid foundation, you don't need to constantly add more to feel successful. You'll actually start enjoying your life instead of grinding through it.Ready to master the art of prioritizing yourself and creating a life filled with joy, fulfillment, ease, and peace? Fill out the application https://lisacarpenter.ca/wwm/ and let's discuss how to get you the results you're after without sacrificing yourself to achieve them.Enjoyed this episode? Head over to your listening platform and leave a rating and review—it helps us get this message into the ears of more women who need to hear it.

You’ll Spend Anything on Your Kids But Won’t Invest in the One Thing They Actually Need From You

Are you an overwhelmed parent who's tired of yelling at your kids? Do you find yourself losing it with your children, then feeling guilty about your parenting afterward? If you're a high-achieving mom or dad struggling with parenting anxiety, constant overwhelm, and the exhausting cycle of trying to control everything, this episode is for you.In today's deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how doing my own healing work completely transformed how I show up as a parent, and how it's breaking generational trauma for my children.What You'll Learn:Why "good parents" still lose it with their kids (and what's really happening beneath the surface)The hidden cost of perfectionist parenting and how it damages both you and your childrenHow emotional safety actually works in parenting (it's not what most parents think)Why your kids' anxiety isn't really about anxiety - and what it's actually telling youThe one investment that changes everything for your family's emotional healthHow breaking generational patterns happens through YOUR healing, not your children's behaviorPerfect for Parents Who:Feel like they're always yelling despite wanting to be calmStruggle with mom guilt or dad guilt about their parentingAre overwhelmed by daily parenting challengesWant to stop repeating their parents' mistakes but don't know howAre high-achievers who can't seem to "achieve" at parentingFeel anxious about their children's emotional well-beingAre tired of walking on eggshells around their kids' big emotionsFeatured Story:I share the raw, real moment when my 14-year-old son Jake dropped his brand-new phone in the river, and how our response became a powerful example of generational healing in action. You'll hear exactly what we did differently (and what we used to do wrong) that's creating emotional safety for our kids.The Investment Truth:Why parents will spend thousands on tutoring, sports, and schools but resist investing in the inner work that actually gives their children emotional security, self-compassion, and healthy relationships with themselves.If you're ready to stop the cycle of overwhelm and create the emotionally safe family environment your children actually need, this episode will show you exactly where to start, and why the work begins with you.

The Hidden Codependency Keeping High-Functioning Women & Men Stuck

You're not needy. You're not the damsel in distress. You get shit done.But what if I told you that your excellence, your leadership, your "I've got this" attitude is actually a sophisticated form of codependency that's keeping you emotionally trapped?In this raw, unfiltered solo episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the high-functioning codependency that disguises itself as strength but leaves you drowning in resentment while everyone else gets to rest.What You'll Discover:The Real Face of CodependencyWhy it's not about being needy—it's about needing to be needed so badly you abandon yourselfHow your "strength" became your prisonThe difference between being helpful and being codependentThe Hidden Traits That Don't Look CodependentYou anticipate others' needs before being asked (and call it leadership)You intellectualize feelings but avoid actually feeling themYou see your value in what you do, not who you areYou never ask for help but resent people who doHow It Shows Up Everywhere:At Work: You're the emotional air traffic controller managing everyone's moodsIn Parenting: You over-function for your kids while under-functioning for yourselfIn Love: You choose potential over reality and call it commitmentThe Codependent Loop That's Stealing Your Joy:Obsession (disguised as leadership)Control (disguised as being proactive)Resentment (disguised as martyrdom)Collapse (disguised as "having a lot on your plate")Hope (disguised as optimism)RepeatThe Hard Truth:You've built an empire on "not good enough." You're constantly chasing, constantly proving, constantly giving—but never arriving at that place where you feel genuinely fulfilled.Your life looks amazing on the outside. But on the inside? You're exhausted, disconnected, and wondering why success doesn't feel the way you thought it would.The Way Out:This isn't about becoming selfish or uncaring. It's about coming home to yourself. It's about moving from codependency to sovereignty—knowing who you are without all the masks and coping mechanisms.The Three A's:Awareness: Seeing these patterns without judgmentAcceptance: The gateway to transformationAction: Detachment, boundaries, and reparenting yourselfReal Talk:How much longer are you going to stay in this loop? How much longer will you pat yourself on the back for being "so strong" while your joy slips through your fingers every single day?The cost of doing nothing isn't just your well-being—it's your relationships, your health, and the woman you're meant to become.If This Hit You Like a Freight Train:This episode might be one to listen to twice. There's a lot here. And if you're sitting there thinking "holy shit, this is me"—that's your nervous system recognizing the truth.You have a choice right now. You can keep pretending these patterns are just "being responsible," or you can decide that today is the day you stop abandoning yourself for everyone else.Ready to break the cycle? Visit LisaCarpenter.ca/WWM and fill out the application. Let's have a real conversation about what it looks like to reclaim your life.If this episode rocked your world, share it with another high-functioning human who needs to hear this. That's how we change lives—one honest conversation at a time. Resources Mentioned:Work with Lisa: LisaCarpenter.ca/WWMFollow Lisa on Instagram: @LisaCarpenterInc"Codependency isn't about weak people. It's about people who have been conditioned to believe their worth depends on being needed, accepted or approved by others." - Ross Rosenberg

Redefining Success During Life’s Biggest Transitions (Live Coaching with Kasia)

In this powerful live coaching session, Lisa works with Kasia, a former client who is navigating pregnancy in her 40s while running a successful coaching business. This conversation explores the profound shifts that come with major life transitions and how our definitions of success must evolve with us.Key Topics DiscussedThe Reality of Pregnancy vs. ExpectationsHow pregnancy can shatter our carefully constructed ideas of how life "should" goThe guilt that comes when reality doesn't match our dreamsLearning to hold multiple truths at once: excitement and regret, joy and burdenRedefining SuccessMoving from external metrics (revenue, client satisfaction, stability) to internal statesKey insight: "Success isn't a measurement - it's a feeling you get to embody"Success as an identity and internal state of being rather than external achievementValue Beyond the DollarRecognizing inherent worth that isn't tied to income generationThe unpaid labor of motherhood, partnership, and family buildingStanding in your power when financial contributions shiftNavigating Partnership During TransitionHaving difficult conversations about expectations and contributionsMoving from 50/50 thinking to understanding natural ebbs and flows in relationshipsThe importance of negotiation and honest communicationConflict Avoidance PatternsHow childhood experiences with conflict shape adult behaviorThe difference between actual conflict and perceived judgmentLearning to trust your ability to navigate uncertaintyKey TakeawaysSurrender as Practice: Major life transitions require us to practice surrender at levels we've never experienced beforeInternal vs. External Judgment: Often the harshest judgment comes from within, not from othersThe Value Question: Ask yourself and your partner: "What would you pay me to be a mother to your child?"Presence Over Productivity: Some seasons of life call for being rather than doingRelationships as Long-term Reciprocity: Healthy partnerships aren't tit-for-tat but involve carrying each other through different seasonsReflection QuestionsWhere in your life are you trying to avoid conflict that may not even happen?How are you defining success, and is that definition serving you?What would change if you truly believed in your inherent worth, separate from what you produce?How might you honor the season of life you're in rather than rushing to the next one?Connect with LisaWebsite: [lisacarpenter.ca]Instagram: [@lisacarpenterinc]If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these insights about navigating major life transitions with grace and self-compassion.