Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.

How to Actually Feel Your Feelings

So many of the clients I work with are high-achievers who don’t recognize this fact about themselves. They feel like no matter what they achieve it isn’t good enough, because they’re comparing it or measuring it against someone or something else. So today, I want to share something with you in regards to learning how to feel your feelings and become a little more internally referenced.
2:08 - The real reason why we seek external validation
4:39 - The question I asked my 9-year old that had him pondering
8:01 - How I apply self-validation to my own life
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No Emotion Is Negative

Today, I’m gonna rant a little. As I step more and more into my leadership role, I think it’s important to also share the icky bits. You can’t truly experience the expansion of joy and gratitude if you’re not also willing to dance at the other end of the emotional spectrum. So in this episode, I cover grief, sadness, anger, and allowing ourselves as women to be okay feeling those “negative” emotions knowing that they too serve you.
2:50 - Why I think it’s important to talk about this topic
10:20 - Why all of our emotions are good
16:04 - Not succumbing to the dark side of light addiction
20:45 - The Serenity Prayer and being in acceptance of unchangeable things
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How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids and Be a Great Mom

This episode is a special encore episode because Mother’s Day is coming up. It was among the first I put out for this podcast and it still rings true today. Back in the day, I was a real dragon mom. I yelled all the time at my kids and believed that if they’d just behave, then I’d feel better. But nothing was further from the truth. So I discuss my transformation into a mom who takes on the responsibility for my own feelings and behaviors and who developed a better relationship with myself and my kids.
7:28 - Reading my article from a few years ago about how to be a great mom
15:42 - What I learned and embraced as I continued to parent my boys
19:49 - Why shaming and blaming myself for the past is unnecessary
23:19 - How to not screw up your kids and ways to be a better mom
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You Cannot Have What You Envy in Others

What do you believe about others who have what you want? Today’s topic of discussion came up in the last round of my now retired Weight Loss From Within program. The journaling prompt centered around how you can’t have for yourself what you hate or envy in others. When you do so, you’re repelling that energy instead of drawing it to yourself. Really think about the stories you have about people in regard to something you want for yourself.
5:56 - What Lisa wants you to know about healthy, fit people
9:19 - The hardest thing Lisa had to do to create the person she is now
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How to Set Boundaries In Your Battle With the Busy Work Blues

Today, I’m talking to Carly from Sydney, Australia who started working with me in June 2020. I’ve brought her on because I want to share what transpired for her in the six months we worked together. She had really profound results after a year of hesitation. She was doing busy work for the sake of being busy and using up time...and then beat herself up over not getting everything on her daily to-do list done. In this episode, we discuss how she turned it around and learn to set boundaries for herself.
6:08 - The big problem Carly discovered when she first started
11:24 - Carly taking responsibility for what was happening at work
16:23 - How data (and a figurative face slap) led to a promotion and pay raise
19:36 - Why high-functioning women constantly throw themselves under the bus
25:43 - Where the energy behind drive or ambition really comes from
31:15 - What drives Lisa a little crazy in the coaching world
36:39 - The ultimate lesson Carly learned about herself
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The Biggest Bullshit Story That Leads to Your Emotional Constipation

If you’ve been a regular listener, you’ve heard about how I’ve been feeling very flat and uninspired lately. After sharing how I’ve been feeling, I moved that energy and learned that over the years I was a control freak who didn’t want people to see that I didn’t have it all together. Through years of coaching and therapy, I discovered that I’m my most powerful when I’m talking about my experiences and allowing myself to feel what I’m feeling. Many of my clients also struggle with this. So if you’re feeling emotionally flat, you might have a case of emotional constipation.
5:18 - The comment from my son that made my jaw drop
9:45 - Operating with an underlying subconscious belief of lack
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How to Avoid Chasing Happiness in Your Pursuit of Milestones

I’m committed to living an extraordinary life on my own terms, day in and day out. My business has just passed an incredibly significant milestone (which I’ll share on a future episode). For now, I just need to be present to what I’m experiencing and allow myself to celebrate and process it. So today, I’m taking you along on a drive with me (literally) as I talk about getting from point A to point B and what happens when you get to point B.
3:34 - What has shifted for me the past couple of years
5:24 - Why point B doesn’t exist and how it’s like an athlete’s career
8:09 - You’ll always be chasing happiness if you don’t learn to love the journey
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How Michelle Ditched the Self-Sabotaging Habit of Loving Herself With Food

My guest today Michelle is a listener of my podcast every week and has taken part in my Weight Loss from Within program. Despite a love of healthy food and using exercise as a stress-relieving outlet, she found herself unexpectedly packing on the pounds following gallbladder surgery. So in this episode, she shares her quest of curiosity through my program and discusses what she discovered went astray.
4:18 - How Michelle felt about herself before joining
9:34 - What it means to let your body down
11:59 - Internalizing negative self-talk instead of saying it out loud
18:23 - Powerful realization of why Michelle used food to procrastinate
23:48 - The top 3 things Michelle left behind in the program
31:24 - How Michelle feels about her body now
39:36 - Final thoughts from Michelle
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How to Go From Feeling Flat to Feeling Fine

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been going in and out of this phase of feeling really flat. I’ve been feeling sad, uninspired, frustrated, sometimes even angry and haven’t felt super inspired to do anything--not be on social media putting out content or consuming others, nor being inspired to write. In fact, I’ve only felt like showing up for my clients and the group I facilitate. Despite not feeling like recording this episode, my mastermind reminded me today of a promise I made: to talk about the gnarly bits of life as well. So I’m discussing how to get over the COVID-induced wall we’ve all hit at some point or another.
3:04 - The impact of a missing connection with women I’m close to
6:37 - What I want you to know about what you’re feeling
9:19 - What creates our suffering and the place you can always go back to
15:43 - The easiest way to acknowledge and shift your emotions
19:13 - Why you want to process your feelings before you’re forced to
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How to Break the Vicious Cycle of Should-ing On Yourself

I hear all the time from my clients, “I should have...” over and over. The truth is we don’t know what we don’t know until we know it. We all have blind windows. So when you start telling yourself you should have done this or that, it’s an opportunity for you to pay attention and look at the stories you’re telling yourself. In this short but sweet episode, I talk about why should-ing on yourself makes no sense and is actually detrimental to you.
2:25 - How should-ing contributes to criticism and self-abuse
5:44 - What to do in the moments when the “shoulds” show up
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